The Complex Art of Saying 'No'

Sunday, 24 November 2019

Let's talk about something a little tricky - Saying 'No'.

Saying 'No' has always been a super hard thing for me to do and I don't think I am the only one.
I would love to say it's because I am an air sign (Libra), although I think it's more than that. 

This is the general cycle I go through: I say 'No', I feel guilty, I do the thing even though I said no, I feel drained - repeat.

So here are some top tips for saying 'No'. This post is not only to inform but also, so I will hopefully start taking my own advice.

Acknowledge Your Priorities.

Sometimes you should be your number one priorities. The more time you spend doing things that drain you, the less time you have with yourself, your friends, family or your passions.

The More you Say it, The Easier it Will Become. 

I know for me, sometimes 'No' is simply not enough. People are used to me saying yes, so it can become almost expected from me. Also, although you are working on this new goal, you don't want to alienate your friends. Sometimes saying 'No' can be misconstrued as a negative thing. So, practise saying it. Find new, softer ways of saying 'No'.

Don't be afraid To Make People Unhappy.

If the people around you aren't happy with your saying 'No' occasionally, don't worry about it. Again, harking back to you being the priority. Sometimes you will make people unhappy, but you can't please everyone.

Value Your Own Time

Your time should be as valuable to you as it is to others. Saying 'No' helps to establish healthy boundaries between yourself and others. It enables others to have clarity about what they can expect from you in the future.

Respect Others When They Say 'No'

Whilst you are on the journey of learning how to say 'no', you have to remember that other people may be doing the same. To put it simply, treat others who you expect to be treated.

My New Years resolution for 2020 is to say 'No' more often and to not feel guilty about it. Usually, I don't have any resolutions, but this year, I am going to give it a go.

Thank you for reading this blog post!

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  1. Knowing when to say no is important!! The last thing we want to do is say yes because we didn't have it in us to say no, when we truly don't want to do something. It is fine to make people unhappy, it is not our job to make them happy :).Thanks for sharing!

    Nancy ♥


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