The benefits of living with your best friend

Tuesday 28 May 2019

Hello and welcome! 
If you are new here, this might not be the best post to start on. Go and have a look at some of my wholesome cooking posts or my ones about self-love. 
In the past, I have written posts about my housemates (linked here) and how I annoy them ALL THE TIME. Well, this post is about one housemate in particular. My best friend. 
If you have been reading my blog for a while, you might familiar with the name 'Shalieka', a common character in my life journey of disaster and chaos.  
I have been living with Shalieka for two years now and we will be moving in together when we leave our student accommodation. 
Now, as a woman, I think it is important to support other women. I have always found it really hard to be friends with women who think that every female is in some way, their competition. Shalieka and I have a friendship where we walk around the house with no trousers on, singing Lizzo 'Good as Hell' at the top of our lungs at 2am in the morning. Shalieka doesn't judge me when I put a mountain of cheese on top of my pasta and I don't judge her when dumps a bottle of sour cream on every meal I make her.
We make each other better. We push each other to leave our well-built comfort zones but hold each other's hand whilst we do it. 
Below, I have listed a few reasons why living with your best friend is the best thing ever.

It's like having my very own wife. It's like I have completely and utterly, accidentally, fallen into marriage. And I love it.  Gone are the days where I do anything alone. Need to go food shopping? She is coming with me. Need a glass of wine? Well, I better get two glasses.  Too scared to submit for a deadline? Let's hand in our work together! It's simple really. When you live with your best friend, it's like gaining a wife.

It is really, really rare that I am drunk when Shalieka isn't but sometimes it happens. I want to start this point off by apologising. I am sorry for all of my shenanigans when I am drunk and you are completely sober. I mean like, not one drink, pyjamas on, about to go to sleep sober. 
And the worst part? Shalieka can't escape me. 
We rent a four-bedroom house with really thin walls...and floors. Shalieka lives directly above me. The other night, I came home, a little (very) drunk. Shalieka was tucked up in bed, ready to sleep but really, she was waiting for me to get home (that's what wives do). 
I burst through her bedroom door, no knocking and began to annoy her. And then, I proceeded to go to bed and yell up to my ceiling to see if she could hear me. 
Here are some actual excerpts from our messages:

So, like many people, there are a few phrases that I say often. A few sayings have found their way into my everyday speech and now, I can't stop saying them. I think I started saying them ironically or maybe because I thought they sounded smart or funny. 
What's wrong with that? You may ask.
Nothing. Nothing at all. Nothing is wrong with that. Until it starts to spread to others, e.g. Shalieka.
Yes, that's right. My little sayings and whimsical phrases now, regularly, have snuck their way into my best friends vocabulary. 
For example: In reality.
I say the phrase, 'in reality', way too often. 

Here is a snippet from an actual conversation between us:
Asher: "In reality, I could do that thing Thursday but I don't want too"
Shalieka: "Yeah, but in reality, you could."

So, in summary, if you get the chance to live with your best friend, take it. It will either make or break your friendship. Thank you Shalieka for constantly putting with me and I cannot wait to carry on living with you!

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Shop this post:
You'll Do Card: Not On The Highstreet
Shalieka's Cute Pink Trainers: Puma
Miniature Polaroids: FujiFilm Instax

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  1. Aww I love this! I like to think I live with my best friend (he's my partner). It's just so freeing and lovely to be supported all the time. I used to live with another best friend of mine years ago and it was equally as lovely! She was so strong and supportive when I needed her, and vice versa.

    - Nyxie

    1. That is so so sweet! Thank you for your comment xx

  2. Love this post.... I live with my best friend too Asher..... that’s your daddy.
    We love you and love that you are going to continue to live with your best friend in your next venture. Your

  3. I was also lucky enough to share an apartment with my best friend for two years and loved it so can relate to a lot of this blog post! I'm sending you both all of my love ๐ŸŒธ๐Ÿ’œ

    With love, Alisha Valerie x |

  4. Love this post. So happy that you and Shalieka will still continue to live together. I’m sure your friendship will continue to strengthen xx

  5. Good post made me laugh

  6. I love that you're bringing out the positivity of living with your best friend. It is great that both of you have a great time living together! Sending you both lots of love.

    Nancy ♥

  7. My heart๐Ÿ˜ฉ this is cute& I love drunk you ๐Ÿ˜‚ x

  8. thank you Bexa. Living with your sister must be great too!!

  9. love this post

  10. Lovely post!

    It's great that you and Shalieka get on so well!

    Keep up the good work!


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